How to Beat the Blues

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By Melanie Dean, PhD

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What you feel you get! Whatever it is you want in your life – you must feel it.

Your feelings activate quantum particles that are set into motion, bringing you more of the same. So, be sure to focus on those feelings that bring you more of what you want.

What do you do though if you have life challenges that bring you down?  What if it is hard to feel eager and excited for the good things you want in life when there are so many difficulties?

Think about those times when you felt energized and inspired to pursue something that excited you. You were happy and eager to go into action to achieve your desires.  During this period of inspiration and action, you were living your dreams, having fun, and loving how everything just “clicked”!

Then, you woke up one morning, and the feelings of inspiration were gone — those excited feelings were gone.  You trudged through your day feeling a bit hopeless.  You no longer felt excited.  Instead, you worried that your good feelings and dreams were fleeting and that you didn’t know how to recapture them.  Those days, you would attend to your job and family while also feeling disappointed that your inspiration and excitement had disappeared.  And, you wondered how to get back on track.

Each of us is made up of quantum particles of energy that become activated by the jolt of energy that feelings provide.  Science shows that when you focus on something with a feeling attached to it, your brain jumps to a higher electrical megahertz, which actives those quantum particles. If the feelings are positive, you activate positive energy. If they are negative, you activate negative energy.

Getting back on track with inspiration and success is not as hard as you might think. When you feel happy, your brain activates your quantum particles, which can’t tell the difference between feeling happy and excited about finding a new job and feeling happy and excited to go for a walk with your dog (who is, of course, overwhelmingly happy to go for a walk).

Here is the easy path for getting back on track:

  • Capture Gratitude – Feel happiness and excitement for anything or many things in your life that spark those feelings for you. Feel it.  Enjoy it.
  • Envision your Dream – While you are feeling happy and excited, bring your new desire to mind. Imagine yourself with the new perfect job, if that is your desire.  Imagine yourself playing the musical instrument you have been wanting to learn, if that is your desire.  Imagine yourself doing what it is that you desire.
  • Let your Dream Bring a Smile to your Face – Feel the excitement of living this dream. As worries about current difficulties or critical thoughts about achieving your dream float through your mind, don’t dwell on any of them, just let each one go, and keep the feelings of excitement alive and active inside of you for as long as you can.  At first, it might be just a minute or two.  Later, you will be able to keep those feelings of excitement active for long stretches during each day.
  • Plan One Small Step – While you are feeling excited, set one SMALL goal for yourself to achieve your desire. Commit to achieving that goal within two days.
  • Do One Small Step – Achieve your SMALL goal. No excuses.  Feel good about it!  Repeat!


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